The Rider’s Mind Podcast Episode 36: Fear Takes a Back Seat
It is said that there are only two true emotions: love and fear. If we are in one, we can’t be in the other. There is a lot of fear and uncertainty in the world right now, so this topic applies to both current events and to the arena. Listen to this episode to find out how you can shift from fear to love.
“There are only two emotions: love and fear. All positive emotions come from love, all negative emotions from fear. From love flows happiness, contentment, peace, and joy. From fear comes anger, hate, anxiety and guilt. It's true that there are only two primary emotions, love and fear. But it's more accurate to say that there is only love or fear, for we cannot feel these two emotions together, at exactly the same time. They're opposites. If we're in fear, we are not in a place of love. When we're in a place of love, we cannot be in a place of fear.”
― Elisabeth Kubler Ros
There are many emotions, but ultimately those are the two big ones. We’re choosing every moment to be in one or the other. If you’re not choosing love, you’re choosing fear or one of its derivatives (like anger, jealousy, frustration, worry or guilt). Gratitude, peace, happiness, joy, and appreciation all root back to love. If you take a look at your life and the decisions you make, you can see whether you are more focused on fear or on love.
Are you making decisions out of love or are you making decisions out of fear?
Maybe you’re not quite able to see it in your own life yet, but you will be able to see it if you look at someone else and their choices. Are they making choices because they are afraid or because they have a full heart and they make their choices out of love?
For example, you have two jobs you could take. One makes more money and the other is something you’ve always wanted to do. Fear would have you choose the one that makes more money and makes you feel secure. Love would have you choose the labor of love.
Are you going to enter the rodeo because of your love for competition and your horse or stay home for your fear of not being good enough?
We always have a choice as to how we will approach something.
Let’s talk about current events. Are you going to stay home because you are afraid to get “the virus” or are you going to stay home because you love yourself and your family enough to make safe choices? You can approach the same thing with a different energy. That goes back to reframing and perspective (listen to Episode 9: The Art of Reframing for some tips on this).
You could feel fear about making a run on your horse or going for a ride in general, but your love for the sport outweighs the fear. You choose to be in the energy of love. Even when you make this choice, fear doesn’t disappear, but it gets the back seat. You don’t let fear drive the truck, he sits in the back and can alert you of a potential risk, but you have a mind of your own so you can choose to accept or avoid that risk.
Fear does serve a purpose, but we can’t get stuck in that energy.
We must reframe and get back into the energy of love and the “why” of what we’re doing. Fear is a primal emotion and can come over us in a flash, but we can use the more developed part of our brain to talk ourselves out of that emotion.
Everything is energy. Fear is a lower vibration energy and love is a high vibration energy. They are at opposite ends of the scale. Being in low vibration can bring havoc to your health and to your immune system. The last place you want to be when you’re trying to stay healthy is in the energy of fear. The more you stay in fear, the lower your vibration and the lower your state of health.
The more you can release, heal and grow, the more your vibe will rise and your energy will rise. Look for things to be grateful for. Make choices from your heart. Raise your vibe. Get into the energy of love. Do kind things. It will make you feel well.
We want to practice getting ourselves out of the energy of fear and into love every day with small things so that we have a greater capacity to handle the harder things when they hit us.
One way to get out of fear is to recognize it for what it is. Seeing that the root of what you’re feeling is actually fear is helpful. Peel back the layers of what you’re feeling until you get there. Maybe it’s a fear of being alone, maybe it’s fear of looking bad, maybe it’s a fear of scarcity or maybe it’s a fear of not being enough.
You can get out of it by getting into a higher vibration energy based on love. Focus on all that you have. Focus on self-love and your inner knowing that you really are enough. Put your energy into seeing things you’re grateful for. Express it out loud or make a list of things you’re grateful for. Dance and be merry. Love and be loved.
Allow yourself to feel joy and happiness in these uncertain times.
Reframe and turn around those feelings. It starts with the awareness of how fear shows up. Put fear in the backseat. You’re smart. You can handle this. You’ve got this.
I hope you’ll join me for the next episode of The Rider’s Mind. I will be talking about finding the “why” in our ride and seeing what got us hooked on horses in the first place.
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