The Rider’s Mind Podcast Episode 28:You Were Made for More
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne Williamson
Have you ever stopped and considered that maybe you were made for more? I know you are. In this episode, I’ll tell you why.
If “playing small” has never been an issue for you, it might be difficult to understand why someone would do that. But for those of you who have been caught in the “playing small” trap, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. We might not understand it, but we know the feeling. It’s a fear of being too much and shining too bright. It’s being worried about drawing too much attention.
When we think about this logically, it doesn’t make sense. We are trying to be the best barrel racer, the best roper, the best reiner….yet we are scared of being seen. This is a problem.
We are sending vibes out to the universe that we are afraid of accepting the buckle, holding the big cheque or taking the victory lap. When we think like this, we’re not in alignment with the result we want. We want it, but we are subconsciously sending a message that we’re scared of it. This is a conflict and, because of it, we could be repelling the win we want so badly.
We get out of this situation by learning how we got into it.
Often, we have a memory or a programming glitch in our subconscious (that part of our brain doesn’t know to sort out what’s true and false). The subconscious is often programmed when we are very young, before we are able to interpret events.
For example, maybe a parent told you to be quiet in front of others and embarrassed you. Maybe you grew up with the impression it was safer if you weren’t seen. Maybe that one time you put yourself out there at school you were laughed at and made fun of. These are fears from the past, but they are affecting your present state because your subconscious doesn’t keep a timeline. Those experiences are just as real as if they happened yesterday.
When we can call these falsehoods out by acknowledging them, we can leave them behind. We can reprogram ourselves to believe that it is safe to be seen and it safe to be more.
It is safe to show up and shine. It is safe to inspire others to do the same.
One of my all-time favourite quotes is by Marianne Williamson and I really do try to live by it. It reminds me that it is safe to put myself out there. I know that by putting myself out there, I am subject to judgment, but the fact that I might inspire just 1 other person to be all that they can be is enough for me to let my light shine.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. It’s safe to be brilliant, it is safe to be gorgeous, talented and fabulous. Actually, who are you not to be?”
– Marianne Williamson
So… Who are you not to be? And what gives you permission to be less than all you’ve been created for? Who are you to choose NOT be the light? To NOT inspire someone else to be their best self through your actions? You never know who is watching. You don’t know who is looking to you for inspiration. Is it fair to them to take away their inspiration?
When you think of it this way it’s easier to turn the light on, right? Shine bright!
You’re not getting permission from me to shrink and stay small. I admire anyone who lets their authentic self shine bright. They’re an inspiration to me. You were made for more and I want to see you show up. For what it’s worth, you have my permission to speak up, to show up and be seen.
I want you to feel good with your name in lights. I want you to own the space when you hold the big cheque. I want you to love the attention when you walk up to accept your buckle. To be able to feel that way has definitely taken some attention for me, but it’s been worth it. I hope you’ll work on it too. You deserve to feel good being your best.
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